CONSEQUENCES OF DELAYING MARRIAGE!

STOP DELAYING MARRIAGE! 

Praise be to Allaah and blessings of Allaah be upon His Messenger and Chosen Prophet.

You should stop delaying marriage, because delaying marriage is harmful for you.

What is required is to hasten to get married, and no young man or young woman should
delay marriage for the sake of studies, because marriage does not prevent any such thing.

It is possible for a young man to get married in order to protect his religious commitment and morals, and enable him to lower his gaze.

Marriage serves many purposes, especially in this day and age.

Because delaying it is harmful for both young women and young men.

Every young man and every young woman should hasten to get married.

If there is a man who is compatible with the woman, and if a man can find the right woman.

Now let me ask you!

How about if you realize that marriage will protect half of your religion?

How about if you realize that by getting married, you will have followed the advice of the Messenger of Allaah?

How about if you realize that by producing a righteous child you will have ongoing charity (sadaqatu jaariyah)?

If you raise the child with good morals and faith, and you will be rewarded for your marriage if you seek reward with Allaah for that.

My fellow Muslims!

Marriage is a source of tranquillity and peace, and it is the best of the pleasures of this world.

May Almighty Allaah make marriage easy for unmarried men and women.

Bismillahir Rahmaanir Raheem.

Indeed Marriage is a compulsory Sunnah of the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam and whoever decides not to marry will invalidate his or her membership to this blessed Ummah of Rasuul. Marriage is a new door that leads to happiness as it unites two people and creates new familial bonds. When I think of marriage, I think of the Sunnah of our beloved Prophet Muhammad (Sall Allahu Alayhi Wa Sallam). I think of love, mercy, compassion, friendship, and happiness.

Today we are living in a time where it is very difficult to get married. Culture seems to play a bigger role in marriage than the religion itself which causes much distress among families especially youngsters who suffer the most due to lack of fear of Allah among us and our parents. If I ask a young Muslim brother why he hasn't married? He would say, "I do not have the means to support a wife, I am looking for a job." Another would say, "I haven't found the right person." Then, the excuses build up. When I ask the Muslim sisters, They say "hmmmm still in education" and some say, "I will when the times comes In shaa Allah." While all these great excuses and cultural barriers between parents build up, the people remain unmarried for a very long time and the same time some committing zina and other acts which is meant for marriage couple. This is where I have found many people getting depressed. Some have lost hope and think that they will never get married. This is very sad. I feel guilty writing this but this is a very important issue and is an advice to myself first, then others In shaa Allah.

The reason for mentioning this is to remind my dear brothers and sisters in Islam not to despair if you feel you cannot get married at the moment. Allah Subhana Wa Ta'ala will have someone for you. Do not lose hope thinking that you will never get married. Our parents should avoid been selfish and stop demanding big mahar from the men. We should avoid looking for so called Ready Made men and women but rather make  eemaan/ Islamic Education and practicing our priority of accepting him or her for marriage. Allah will then bring the means to support yourselves with our efforts.

But take note there are some steps to facilitate the process of marriage. May Allah grant all our single brothers and sisters good practicing Muslims.